Grief One Has No Claim To – Renewed Sadness over Etan Patz

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A Grief

There is grief we have no claim to,
yet it claims us.  It is the reverse
of the view of a landscape owned by another,
a place we drive
or walk by, taking in with sigh the checkerboard
of fields, the cirrus sunsets.

But grief–this grief–is nothing at all
like that.  It’s the reverse, I said–
the metaphors of the bystander just
don’t come–the knife
to a nearby heart, the reverberation
of sob, the dank well
of loss that one has not, in fact,
been forced down to.

A child gone missing==it’s
a blade I have not felt, thank God–but even
the mere thought slices from forehead down–physically hurts–even as I
know that it’s a grief I have no claim to–thank God thank God thank God–
it claims me, physically hurts, even as I know my hurt
is nothing, nothing.

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Have been thinking about Etan Patz and his parents since yesterday’s reports of the fresh search below a basement floor in Soho.  Etan’s disappearance  was an event that saddened  and frightened all New Yorkers (and probably all parents) for many years.  Still, I was shocked at how painful it’s been to read about it all again.  I send my deepest sympathies to Etan’s parents.

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5 Comments on “Grief One Has No Claim To – Renewed Sadness over Etan Patz”

  1. Mama Zen's avatar Mama Zen Says:

    Perhaps, it is the grief that makes us most human. Beautiful write.

  2. brian miller's avatar brian miller Says:

    a missing child def is a thought i hope not to feel for my own but one i have def felt…had to go track down a client this morning at 630 am…he left a pile of bloody rags in his bed and was no where…we found him…so i feel it on some levels….grief will def consume us as well if we let it…but on some level it does remind us we are human…

    • ManicDdaily's avatar ManicDdaily Says:

      Oh, so sorry. Terrible. Glad you got him. The Patz case was a very big deal for New Yorkers generally. I had an apartment a few blocks away. Of course, it went country-wide with the milk cartons. So so sad.

  3. mbwilliams's avatar mbwilliams Says:

    Your words certainly took me to a sad place; well written


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