Grief One Has No Claim To – Renewed Sadness over Etan Patz
A Grief
There is grief we have no claim to,
yet it claims us. It is the reverse
of the view of a landscape owned by another,
a place we drive
or walk by, taking in with sigh the checkerboard
of fields, the cirrus sunsets.
But grief–this grief–is nothing at all
like that. It’s the reverse, I said–
the metaphors of the bystander just
don’t come–the knife
to a nearby heart, the reverberation
of sob, the dank well
of loss that one has not, in fact,
been forced down to.
A child gone missing==it’s
a blade I have not felt, thank God–but even
the mere thought slices from forehead down–physically hurts–even as I
know that it’s a grief I have no claim to–thank God thank God thank God–
it claims me, physically hurts, even as I know my hurt
is nothing, nothing.
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Have been thinking about Etan Patz and his parents since yesterday’s reports of the fresh search below a basement floor in Soho. Etan’s disappearance was an event that saddened and frightened all New Yorkers (and probably all parents) for many years. Still, I was shocked at how painful it’s been to read about it all again. I send my deepest sympathies to Etan’s parents.
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April 20, 2012 at 9:38 pm
Perhaps, it is the grief that makes us most human. Beautiful write.
April 20, 2012 at 9:45 pm
I think that’s right. k.
April 21, 2012 at 10:07 am
a missing child def is a thought i hope not to feel for my own but one i have def felt…had to go track down a client this morning at 630 am…he left a pile of bloody rags in his bed and was no where…we found him…so i feel it on some levels….grief will def consume us as well if we let it…but on some level it does remind us we are human…
April 21, 2012 at 10:13 am
Oh, so sorry. Terrible. Glad you got him. The Patz case was a very big deal for New Yorkers generally. I had an apartment a few blocks away. Of course, it went country-wide with the milk cartons. So so sad.
April 22, 2012 at 9:46 am
Your words certainly took me to a sad place; well written