One More Last Thing
Getting up very early in the morning tomorrow to go to my father’s cremation. This sounds so strange even as I write it. Perhaps I should say that we (my brother and I) are getting up very early to go to the cremation of my father’s body, corpse, remains. (Though it is hard not to think of what is left as my father, since it is the only physical bit still present.)
Going to an event like this may sound ghoulish or unnecessary. (We have already had a very lovely funeral.) And yet it feels important to me to do it; one last chance to do one more/last thing for and with my father, even if it’s only seeing a longish sort of box, maybe putting a hand on a corner of it, or a corrugated side.
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ManicDDaily 
January 12, 2012 at 1:35 am
I think its very important to do it, that it’s part of saying goodbye, a passage, and that you’re emotionally right(does that make sense?) to do so. Best wishes your way getting through it.
January 12, 2012 at 7:35 am
Yesterday I went to the funeral of our daughter’s Father-in-law. Not as close as my own father, obviously, but close enough to be able to feel with you.
January 12, 2012 at 9:35 am
Thanks, David.
January 12, 2012 at 11:22 am
yes i think it’s good you have been there…it’s a chance to say good-bye once more… cyber hugs your way K….
January 12, 2012 at 11:51 am
will be thinking of you today as you go through this…it def is important for your own sake in the grieving and letting go…
January 12, 2012 at 12:40 pm
I totally get this. We’ll all be thinking of you.